Hi All!
I know I'm a couple of days late with the New Year wishes but Happy New Year anyway! It's been too long since we last chatted! I don't make promises (we'll save that reasoning for another post haha) but I will try my best to be more visible. I hope 2010 brings lots of love, happiness, and prosperity to all! I stopped making laundry lists of New Year's resolutions some time ago. I've learned that if a person really wants to make things happen for themselves, they will. You most certainly don't have to wait to January 1st. A fresh start comes to those who seek it with each minute, each hour, each day. Until next time, smooches!
Sunday, January 3, 2010
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
La nourriture pour la pensée (Food for thought en Francais)
HHHEEELLLOOO!!!!! Feel like it's been forever since I posted last. It's been quite a challenge adjusting to a heavier course load and working full time but I'm maintaining. I came across yet another motivational quote. Don't remember where I saw it first and/or who it was written by. Read it, enjoy it and most importantly apply it to your lives! "The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for".
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Sable's In HD!
Hi All,
I'm taking a break from my usual postings of random observations of life, love and everything in between to bring to you a post about one of my newest loves...makeup!!! I love love love makeup!!! I confess I live on makeup blogs while I'm at work and purchase at least one beauty product weekly. It's borderline obsession (I know). I came across a review for MUFE HD (Make Up For Ever High Definition) foundation on one of my fave makeup blogs, Scandalous Beauty. The reviews on this blog are usually on point and I'm a fan of the MUFE line so I decided to give it a go.
Just to give you some background, it's an oil-free formula that offers medium to full coverage. It was designed to look invisible on camera (hence the name) but is perfectly fine for everyday use. I went to a local Sephora and had an MA (makeup artist) help me find my shade. She applied it to my skin and it blended effortlessly and felt incredibly light. I was so moved by the foundation, I decided to get the HD transluscent powder and concealer too! (I'm a mess, I know).
I haven't applied the foundation on my own since I haven't had much time to play with my face these days and quite frankly? That purchase set me back some change so can't be too generous with the applications! I'm sure an opportunity to get done up will come up over the weekend as usual. I'll be sure to have a more personal review then. AND I know you spied the pic of the bottle of foundation I posted? Fancy right? I know!
XOXO,
Sable
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Things That Make You Go Hmmm...
Hi All!
I came across this article while cleaning out my Inbox that a very good friend (hey girl!) sent to me some time ago. Since caring is sharing..well? I had to share it with you! It's a bit long but worth the read!
10 Ways to Marry the Wrong Person by Rabbi HellerShare
By Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.
With the divorce rate over 50%, too many are apparently making a serious mistake in deciding whom to spend the rest of their life with. To avoid becoming a “statistic,” try to internalize 10 insights.
1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after your married.
The classic mistake. Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if you can’t be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don’t get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, “You actually can expect people to change after their married…for the worst!” So when it comes to the other person’s spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.
2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character.
Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the “I’m in love” syndrome. “I’m in love often means, “I’m in lust.” Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person’s character? Here are four characteristics to definitely check for: Humility: Does this person believe that “doing the right thing” is more important than personal comfort? Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn’t have to be nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he’s going to do? Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is s/he emotionally stable? Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?
3. You pick the wrong person because you dont understand each others needs.
Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn’t get it. Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of the woman and to satisfy them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved. —To feel that she is the most important person in her husband’s life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent is Judaism’s approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman’s terms. Men are goal oriented, especially when it comes to this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, “Men have two speeds: on and off.” Women are experience oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things will happen.
4. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goal and priorities. There are three basic ways we connect with another person: a) Chemistry and compatibility b) share common interests c) share common life goal. Make sure you share a deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart. To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you’re living for while you are single—and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you. This is the true definition of a soul mate. A soul mate is a goal mate…. two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life’s purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.
5. You choose the wrong person because you get involved sexually too quickly.
Sexual involvement before the commitment of marriage can be a big problem because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues. Sexual involvement tends to cloud one’s mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decisions. It is not necessary to “test drive” in order to find out if a couple are sexually compatible. If you do your homework and make sure you are intellectually and emotionally compatible, you don’t have to worry about sexual compatibility. Of all the studies on divorce, sexual incompatibility is never cited as a main reason why people divorce.
6. You pick the wrong person because you do not have deeper emotional connection.
To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: “Do I respect and admire this person?” This does not mean, “Am I impressed by this person?” We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Also ask: “Do I trust this person?” This also means, “Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?
7. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don’t feel emotionally safe.
Ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be myself and express myself with this person.? Does this person make me feel good? Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you’re afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there’s a problem with the relationship. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don’t feel the other person is tying to control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There is a big difference between “controlling” and “making suggestions.” A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.
8. You pick the wrong person because you don’t put everything on the table.
Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way to evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise. You need to know now, before making a commitment: Can you resolve your differences and find compromised that work for both of you? This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with this person. If you can’t be vulnerable, you can’t be intimate. The two go hand in hand.
9. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems.
If you are unhappy and single, you’ll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single.
10. You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle.
To be “triangulated” means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who hasn’t separated from his or her parents is a classic example of triangulation. People can also be triangulated with things as well, such as work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money. Be careful that you and your partner are free of triangles. The person caught in a triangle cannot be fully emotionally available to you. You’ll not be their number one priority. And that’s not basis for a marriage.
I came across this article while cleaning out my Inbox that a very good friend (hey girl!) sent to me some time ago. Since caring is sharing..well? I had to share it with you! It's a bit long but worth the read!
10 Ways to Marry the Wrong Person by Rabbi HellerShare
By Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.
With the divorce rate over 50%, too many are apparently making a serious mistake in deciding whom to spend the rest of their life with. To avoid becoming a “statistic,” try to internalize 10 insights.
1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after your married.
The classic mistake. Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if you can’t be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don’t get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, “You actually can expect people to change after their married…for the worst!” So when it comes to the other person’s spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.
2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character.
Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the “I’m in love” syndrome. “I’m in love often means, “I’m in lust.” Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person’s character? Here are four characteristics to definitely check for: Humility: Does this person believe that “doing the right thing” is more important than personal comfort? Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn’t have to be nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he’s going to do? Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is s/he emotionally stable? Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?
3. You pick the wrong person because you dont understand each others needs.
Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn’t get it. Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of the woman and to satisfy them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved. —To feel that she is the most important person in her husband’s life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent is Judaism’s approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman’s terms. Men are goal oriented, especially when it comes to this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, “Men have two speeds: on and off.” Women are experience oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things will happen.
4. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goal and priorities. There are three basic ways we connect with another person: a) Chemistry and compatibility b) share common interests c) share common life goal. Make sure you share a deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart. To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you’re living for while you are single—and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you. This is the true definition of a soul mate. A soul mate is a goal mate…. two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life’s purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.
5. You choose the wrong person because you get involved sexually too quickly.
Sexual involvement before the commitment of marriage can be a big problem because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues. Sexual involvement tends to cloud one’s mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decisions. It is not necessary to “test drive” in order to find out if a couple are sexually compatible. If you do your homework and make sure you are intellectually and emotionally compatible, you don’t have to worry about sexual compatibility. Of all the studies on divorce, sexual incompatibility is never cited as a main reason why people divorce.
6. You pick the wrong person because you do not have deeper emotional connection.
To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: “Do I respect and admire this person?” This does not mean, “Am I impressed by this person?” We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Also ask: “Do I trust this person?” This also means, “Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?
7. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don’t feel emotionally safe.
Ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be myself and express myself with this person.? Does this person make me feel good? Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you’re afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there’s a problem with the relationship. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don’t feel the other person is tying to control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There is a big difference between “controlling” and “making suggestions.” A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.
8. You pick the wrong person because you don’t put everything on the table.
Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way to evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise. You need to know now, before making a commitment: Can you resolve your differences and find compromised that work for both of you? This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with this person. If you can’t be vulnerable, you can’t be intimate. The two go hand in hand.
9. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems.
If you are unhappy and single, you’ll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single.
10. You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle.
To be “triangulated” means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who hasn’t separated from his or her parents is a classic example of triangulation. People can also be triangulated with things as well, such as work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money. Be careful that you and your partner are free of triangles. The person caught in a triangle cannot be fully emotionally available to you. You’ll not be their number one priority. And that’s not basis for a marriage.
Monday, August 24, 2009
Food For Thought
Some words of wisdom from one of my fave blogs SSSS! Chew on this....
“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
Friday, August 14, 2009
Anti-Facebook: The Movement
Hi All,
I'm on a ROLL! Two posts in one week?! This is major! (LOL). Don't get too used to this, slow posting will resume in the next few weeks since my boss will be back from vacay and the fall semester will commence. I digress! Anyone who knows Sable is well aware of my strong DISLIKE for Facebook and all other forms of online social networking...and if you didn't know...now you know! Quite frankly, I think it's trivial and super intrusive. There, I said it! I don't need to re-connect with old classmates. Truth be told, if it is meant for us to cross paths again...honestly? WE WILL! AND NO! I don't want to log on to view your latest vacay pics, pics of the kids, pics of you and your man, pics of you at the concert. NO! NO! NO! If I get one more invitation to join to view someone's DANG pictures, I'm going to SCREAM! AHHHH!!!! Doesn't anyone print pictures anymore? (Sorry I'm old school) I also CRAVE privacy! I don't need everyone knowing my every whereabout, what I ate for dinner last night or who I'm dating. Somethings are better left private. Haha! I say all this to say, I was lurking on my favorite blogs and came across a hilarious Youtube video about what? Yours trully...Facebook! AS IF, I needed another reason to NEVER EVER join. Check this out...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Cy94-MgpVE&eurl=http%3A%2F%2Fbossip%2Ecom%2Fpage%2F4%2F&feature=player_embedded
I'm on a ROLL! Two posts in one week?! This is major! (LOL). Don't get too used to this, slow posting will resume in the next few weeks since my boss will be back from vacay and the fall semester will commence. I digress! Anyone who knows Sable is well aware of my strong DISLIKE for Facebook and all other forms of online social networking...and if you didn't know...now you know! Quite frankly, I think it's trivial and super intrusive. There, I said it! I don't need to re-connect with old classmates. Truth be told, if it is meant for us to cross paths again...honestly? WE WILL! AND NO! I don't want to log on to view your latest vacay pics, pics of the kids, pics of you and your man, pics of you at the concert. NO! NO! NO! If I get one more invitation to join to view someone's DANG pictures, I'm going to SCREAM! AHHHH!!!! Doesn't anyone print pictures anymore? (Sorry I'm old school) I also CRAVE privacy! I don't need everyone knowing my every whereabout, what I ate for dinner last night or who I'm dating. Somethings are better left private. Haha! I say all this to say, I was lurking on my favorite blogs and came across a hilarious Youtube video about what? Yours trully...Facebook! AS IF, I needed another reason to NEVER EVER join. Check this out...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Cy94-MgpVE&eurl=http%3A%2F%2Fbossip%2Ecom%2Fpage%2F4%2F&feature=player_embedded
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Jawn Of The Day 1.0
If you grew up in the 90s like me, you can remember rocking out to a Toni Braxton tune or two. I was in Rite Aid sometime ago when I nearly lost my mind when "Why Should I Care?" came on the radio. Okay, I didn't quite lose my mind...just got a little bit excited and nostalgic. Thankfully, I haven't had to dedicate this song to anyone...but it still brings about a care-free 'I don't give an "F" ' vibe that totally makes me just want to say "screw you and you AND you" and get in my virtual convertible and....DRIVE! I tried posting the video for your viewing and listening pleasure but Sable is not that tech savvy yet (bare with me). I have the link though (YAY!) So get in your virtual droptop and rock out with me!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9wWNyhCls8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9wWNyhCls8
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